Are You In a Healthy Relationship?
Assessing whether you are in a healthy, safe relationship is an important step. To be loved and to love. Respect, love, acceptance and security and love are all things we could want in relationships. There are other things as well, and every person has their own set of needs. What I’m focusing on is the issue of safety for emotional relationships.
Do you think that you could talk to your partner about all your thoughts and emotions? If not, could it be because they react with one or more of the following? Or do you think they’ll react with:
- They’ll ridicule them as ridiculous?
- Are you thinking that those opinions or thoughts are insane or unfounded?
- Treating you as if are strange?
- Don’t want you to have a relationship?
If you are concerned about these issues If you do, then you’re experiencing one or more of the following scenarios:
1. You’re with a friend who is rude, dismissive and lacks empathy.
2. Your worries are projecting these qualities onto your partner.
3. Some of them.
The way we feel secure could depend on our past with our parents, childhood friends’ attachment styles and heartbreak, the influence of films and books, or our narratives of belief. It doesn’t matter what the source is. It is possible to observe the manifestations of these in our actions and behaviours when they are present.
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Healthy Relationships Require Emotional Safety
In addition to our biological survival instincts, which cause fears and anxiety, we also build a layer of emotional security or insecurity within our social interactions. Two of the major belief system components are anxious about being alone, and the fear of criticism from our partners. According to my experiences, women are more sensitive to being lonely, whereas males are afraid of the criticism of their partners. Even though the feeling of being “alone” might trigger associated with negative emotions like feeling unloved or unloved It is in turn influenced by the history of biological humans living better in groups rather than out in nature.
To be secure, we are required to change these historical habits of our thoughts and our nervous system. In short, there could be many factors that can cause anxiety in relationships. Each one of them can be addressed. The most important thing is to be open to exploring your awareness, be aware and be able to create new patterns of thinking and feeling.
The sense of “safe” is sometimes generated
Let’s first understand certain aspects that give a sense of security in the relationship. An unwavering acceptance by a man of a woman indicates that there’s no judgment and no criticism. She is able to communicate with confidence and be who she is and be free of being judged or dismissed. There are physical and financial aspects that influence women’s feelings of security. Sometimes, women will exchange an assurance of financial security or physical presence in exchange for feelings of connection. Sometimes, because of her relationship is with guys, and as a result of the experiences she had growing up her mind will form an attitude that prevents her from feeling secure with males.
A healthy man who is confident develops a sense of confidence in a woman.
A woman can feel safe and secure when she has a partner who is emotionally accessible and trustworthy, honest and genuine. These are traits of character that you can admire and admire when she meets a male. A man who is character-driven and has emotional depth is one who is aware of who he really is and is happy with himself. His self-love is so strong that he doesn’t need to earn the respect of other people by trying to portray something he’s not. The strength of his character is not physically but rather in the purity of his thoughts and feelings.
When a relationship is healthy, women feel secure if she is sure that the relationship will go somewhere.
Also, there is the possibility that after becoming emotionally involved in a person there could be an end to the relationship. It is normal for us to ask ourselves where the relationship is headed. Sometimes, women wish to feel “safe” from the potential emotional trauma of a broken relationship. She is trying to stay away from the feelings that come from being on her own. This type of security is about defending herself from the traumatic feelings that can result from a breakup or being lonely. If a man is not physically or emotionally from her, or is hanging in a bar with his friends and does not keep her updated this could trigger feelings of isolation or anxiety about breaking up.
Insecurity and fears during a relationship can knock women out of their emotional honesty.
To prevent her from worrying about being lonely, a woman might try to keep her lover close. They might be critical of him for going out with his friends for a night out. In preventing him from engaging in other activities she’s expanding their time together. The negative statement is a way to deflect his actions, to avoid being criticized at all times.
Sadness is a method for him to see her and obtain what she desires. If there are lots of emotional burdens and the relationship could include jealousy or anger. The man might feel ashamed for having done what he thought was the “wrong” thing that caused her to become angry. He may decide to stay away from the evening out with his friends in order to not have to cope with the emotional response of his girlfriend. He could also interpret it as an indication that it’s the right time to develop into a more mature relationship.
What are the disadvantages of receiving what you would like?
If a woman exhibits a pattern of anger, jealousy or sadness, etc. If she is successful in controlling her husband, she will influence his actions through her emotional responses. Through her influence over his emotions, she can influence the way he spends his time. He will be able to steer clear of the things that trigger emotions and anger and to do things she is happy with. The two will be spending more time together, which helps her feel confident in their relationship. This will also help her to escape the feeling of being lonely. In one aspect of her brain, she may have contributed to their relationship, but she could have accidentally caused a different sense of being unsafe.
Check behaviour
If a woman is able to see that she is able to change her husband’s behaviour, she could consider him to be not as robust as he appears. They will view him as someone who has given up his interests and jogs around, trying to please her. He’s lost the person he is and instead became what she would like to be. In a way, she sees that he is no longer his own person. He could be perceived as a weak character and may lose some appreciation for him.
Additionally, she might not feel secure around the man she believes to be weak in character. Women may think that if they are able to influence their husband, then others will be capable of controlling and influencing him too. All of this leads to a loss of trust and respect in the man due to these reasons, and all while feeling secure because they are getting more attention and attention. The whole process can lead to a dysfunctional relationship.
The letting go of fear-based assumptions for the sake of a healthy relationship
It’s only impossible If we confine our options to impulsive methods of control. If we wish to achieve happiness in our relationships, it is necessary to break down the assumptions and beliefs that lead to the distressing fears and behaviours that are controlling. It is necessary to find an emotional solution that goes beyond what our mind can offer as protection from anxiety. What if there was a better alternative?
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